About Andrew Pari

Andrew is an accomplished therapist living in Southern California.

Updates and activities!

It’s been a year since I’ve provided any updates mostly due to a very busy schedule! Thank you to all of you who keep me that way.

I’m in the middle of a series of national and international speaking engagements for some of the top conferences in the country.
I am honored to be presenting alongside some of the top researchers and thinkers in the area of abuse, trauma, and sexualized violence.

Some recent highlights for me were meeting Russel Strand, Ph.D., developer of the FETI model of investigative interviewing. His work is both simple and amazing, and it was a pleasure to see this energetic and knowledgeable speaker. I didn’t realize he had seen MY talk and, when I thanked him for his work, he expressed interest in talking with me further about my work. Very exciting!

I also had the opportunity for some sit-down time with Chris Wilson, Psy.D., whose presentation on the neuro-biology of trauma in DV was as fascinating as it was funny. Since we were scheduled back-to-back in the same room, we were able to watch each other present. He was extremely complimentary about my work, and his personal tips and ideas, over mojitos and beer, on how to improve my delivery will be seen by some of you as I continue to refine my presentation.

Speaking of refining my talk, I’ve been invited to speak in Chicago in late-May for the most interesting conference of my career. The Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities (CARAS) which is an erudite name for what I’m calling “The Kink Conference.” It’s the psychological study of people engaged in any type of alternative sexual lifestyle. This includes BDSM, of course, and also polyamory, multiple-partner relationships, fetishes, and other sexual communities. They’ve asked me to speak on how the acting out of the repetition compulsion plays a role in women who experienced arousal during their abuse or assault.
I’m looking forward to learning as well as teaching.

I met so many fascinating professionals, therapists and law enforcement, dedicated to improving services for women and men who have been raped and sexually abused, and, perhaps, most important to me was having the opportunity to present at EVAWI this April. This is a goal I’ve personally held for several years, and I thank both Joanne Archambault and Dr. Kim Lonsway for inviting me to speak. I presented together for the first time with Wendy Patrick, J.D., Ph.D., Asst. DA in San Diego, and a wonderful warm human being who brought energy and legal insights into our talk. If you think I’m busy, this star attorney was on a plane hours after our talk heading to her next court appearance. Truly inspiring!

As for me, I continue to train, consult, and meet and talk with some of you around the country.

Recently, I’ve presented my work with new unpublished research at:
Institute for Violence, Abuse, & Trauma (IVAT), multiple trainings for the San Diego and Hawai’i,
International Society for the Study of Trauma & Dissociation (ISSTD),
End Violence Against Women International (EVAWI),
National Conference on Crimes Against Women (CCAW),
National Association of Social Workers (NASW),
Embracing Diversity for GLBTQA* Youth (EDGY), and
Texas Victims Services Association (TVSA),
in addition to many smaller trainings and consultation events.

Please call or email me with questions, training requests, or media inquiries. I try to make myself as available as possible.
As I’ve been told numerous times since I started speaking, “nobody else does this!” I wish that weren’t the case, but until that day, it is my sincere mission to bring my work and radical approach to the service of the victims and survivors of sexualized violence.

All my best,



Hello All. You may have met me at a conference, read my work on Reddit or be visiting this site searching, for personal reasons.
However you got here, thank you for visiting my site and I hope you find something important and unique to take away. I have provided trauma response and treatment of many kinds over the years, largely focusing on healing from the pain of sexual abuse and assault.

I provide consultation and training on aspects of sexual violence that most in the field of mental health and legal investigation understand little about.
My work is in raising education and awareness on these themes and in providing treatment to those who continue to experience shame, pain and stigma for their reactions during their rape or sexual assault.

I have spoken to thousands of people over the years, both online and off, to help them understand the physical and biological reactions to sexual abuse and assault. One way I have done this is through conducting discussions on Reddit, where I am known as ChildTherapist.* The example below touches on a significant aspect of my research and work.

If you need help, recovery or information, I am here to help you. Please add your thoughts on this page or contact me privately to discuss whatever you need.

Link to Reddit-

All my best!


– I chose ChildTherapist somewhat at random. Many of the other names I would have used were already taken on Reddit. So I think it’s important to state that though I have worked with children in sexual abuse recovery, much of my work is in treating women, both teens and adults.